Monday, June 30, 2008

10 Things I Don't Feel Guily About...

So, today I began reading "Motherhood: The Guilt That Keeps on Giving" by Julie Ann Barnhill. I'm only on chapter 2, so I really can't comment on the book as a whole, but the preface got me thinking. She suggests, okay demands, that you list 10 things you've done as a mother that you do not feel guilty for. Truly, this is harder than it appears. I could list about a million things that I do feel guilty for, but here goes my list of non-guilt (in no particular order)...

1. I do not feel guilty for letting my 4 year old watch TV, even if she did think the proper term for this symbol - "?" - was "Mystery Mouse-ca-Tool".

2. I do not feel guilty for letting my 8 month old eat table food. It's an ego-boost that at least one of my children enjoys my culinary expertise.

3. I do not feel guilty for keeping my kids on a schedule. No one would withstand the chaos that would ensue if the family schedule did not exist.

4. I do not feel guilty for NOT enrolling my kids in every after-school activity, sport, and/or lesson that is available, nor do I feel guilty for the lack of culture they will surely endure throughout their lifetime.

5. I do not feel guilty for making my kids eat generic brands of almost everything and not buying the convenience foods they so richly crave. Hey, it's only the second best for MY family!

6. I do not feel guilty for working outside the home for the first 4 years of Abby's life, therefore putting her in daycare for 6-8 hours a day. It was what was best for our family at that time.

7. On the flip side, I do not feel guilty for quitting work now to stay home with my kids, even though it means they've had to give up things they want because we can not afford them any longer. It is what is best for our family now.

8. I do not feel guilty for taking a nap when my kids nap, even though I should probably be doing something more constructive, like laundry.

9. I do not feel guilty for making my kids play by themselves while I clean house for an hour or two each day. It's important for kids to learn how to entertain themselves. It's also important for DHR not to come take my kids because my house is nasty.

10. I do not feel guilty for disciplining my kids, even if while I'm doing it , I feel like the worst mom in the world.

There, that wasn't so painful. You should try it...

1 comment:

  1. Great list! It's wonderful to be able to be confident and not compare ourselves with the "rest of the world" or what "they" tell us we need to do as a parent.

    And we should be confident that we know what's best for our children because our actions are motivated from love—-not a scientific study of 1000 children conducted by an objective researcher.

    Keep up the good work (and discipline!)

    Joy @
    Five J's

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